Wednesday, July 31, 2013

dating diaries.

single & not so ready to mingle

finding peace with ridin' solo.

to all my single ladiez. how many times a day do you think to yourself... "ugh, i wish i had a boyfriend..." can we all just stop that already? i had a chat with my friend from college the other day about the perks of being single, and how we need to take advantage of those instead of forcing a situation to happen. like they say, the grass is always greener on the other side....

i am 23. i have no freakin' idea who i am yet, where i am going to be in six months, or what my plan is for the future. how the heck am i supposed to find someone when i don't even know my own identity yet? my goal for now is to "do me." yeah, we have all heard it, but have you really put your heart and soul into accomplishing it? it is so easy to fall into the trap of wanting to find love or even finding a crush, but i am going to fall in love with myself first. 

how to live up being single in your twenties...

-make eye contact with guys. at the market, in bars, on the road, whereever. take advantage of those special seconds that are strictly prohibited when you are in a relationship.

-get close with your girlfriends. friendships grow when you both have the time and energy to bond. use your free time to get dinner, go on walks, or shop around with your gal pals... that free time that you wouldn't quite have when you are someone's girlfriend.

-pick up new hobbies. you know how you always wanted to learn to cook? what about working on your fitness? these are things that you can learn, and get good at when you are becoming an independent woman!

-what do you want? figure out things you want in a life partner. not saying that your next boyfriend is going to be your husband but it is good to realize what you are looking for. are your values and politics something very important to you? what about religion? these are all things to think about!

-focus on YOU. you want to move across the country? well then do it! there is nothing holding you back right now and you don't need to move to the middle of nowhere kentucky because that is where your boyfriend is going to grad school. follow your heart, even if it takes you all the way to california. 

you are only this young ONCE. cheers to makin' it count and being content with where you are at this exact moment. and remember that everything happens for a reason! xx

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