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it's all about balance.

i have recently come to a pretty big conclusion. my newfound epiphany is something that i have been told many times, but if you don't want to listen to others slash aren't ready to believe something... you won't. and that is exactly what i did, ignored it.

if you know me personally, there is no way of getting around the fact that i am loud. my laugh is loud, my personality is loud, and pretty much everything about me is over the top. well, shoot. because of this strong trait, i have usually been attracted to guys who share the same kind of loudness as myself. i have always gone for the jokesters, the life of the parties, pretty much any guy that is confident and funny could win me over. there was always something i loved about having FUN with a guy i liked. but as i am getting older (and believe it or not, more mature) i am becoming attracted to guys who are a little more reserved. in other words, i have learned that balance is key.

sure, the loud and crazy guys are really fun to play beer bong against, sing karaoke with, and even flirt with... but that doesn't mean they are dateable for me. we have all heard the phrase, opposites attract, but maybe that really is a thing. i do believe that you have to share the important things... like morals, beliefs, and such, but different interests and personalities keep things fun and exciting. this is not only a thing when talking about romantic relationships - but friendships as well. some of my very best friends aren't as obnoxious as me... because let's be real, that may be a little too much for anyone to handle. 

my opinion? when it comes to dating, i think opposites attract to a certain extent. say you are an early bird and he is a night owl? that's fine... you can work around that. but when it comes to subjects like religion, family values, & all that serious shizz... you gotta be on the same page. other than that, think about how much you could learn from each other if you both bring so many different things to the table! 

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all we ever do is say goodbye.

are there such things as on-off relationships? i found this insightful youtube video from the one and only, jm. he thinks an on-off-on relationship is a complete fantasyland. if you ever go off, you are always going to be sorta off...

what do you think? can a break up sometimes make things better the second time around? or is it going to be damaged goods from then on out? 

and can we talk about how john mayer is so knowledgeable when it comes to dating but things haven't alwaysss worked out the best for him? maybe i need to give him a try. 

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the perks of being a wallflower.

while this post is going to be short & sweet... it is something that i think is very powerful, especially for girls my age. why do we only expect to receive the love we THINK we deserve? while some people choose to settle, others believe they will never find someone who will live up to their standards. most of the time, i see girls taking the first path... 

while i don't want to be too picky when choosing a significant other, i also never want to feel locked into something where i feel stuck. where is the healthy medium? i first fell in love with this quote after seeing the perks of being a wallflower... and it really started getting me thinking. the way we are treated is dictated by ourselves. if you feel like you aren't being treated right, the only thing holding you back from walking away is yourself! 

don't settle for less than you deserve & don't cut yourself short. at the end of the day... we only accept the love we think we deserve. 

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single & not so ready to mingle

finding peace with ridin' solo.

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to all my single ladiez. how many times a day do you think to yourself... "ugh, i wish i had a boyfriend..." can we all just stop that already? i had a chat with my friend from college the other day about the perks of being single, and how we need to take advantage of those instead of forcing a situation to happen. like they say, the grass is always greener on the other side....

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dating up, dating down.

as i have mentioned before, my entire senior year was dedicated to researching the cougar phenomenon at my university. it was just the thing to do. senior girls dated slash hooked up with sophomore boys... with no judgement. i was severely interested in the concept since the norm in society has always been that the male is older than the female, and i am assuming that is because women are just more mature than men, right!?

now that i am out of college, i have noticed that dating down isn't as big of a thing. women in their twenties want a MAN, not a BOY. we are thinking more long term now, not someone to keep us occupied during our four years of fake life...or what we like to call, a booty call. 

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she can play that game, too.

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it's funny that the articles i used to dreadfully get assigned in class and sometimes "pretended" i read the night before, are the now the articles i am on the lookout for, the ones that i am excited to read before bedtime. i was a sociology major at depauw university and when i tell that to people out here in LA, they don't get how i got here with that degree. i hear things from, "doesn't that mean you want to be a social worker..." to "girl, that has nothing to do with fashion." but you know what? sociology has to do with everything i deal with on a day to day basis...including the relationships i am forming, the conversations i am having, and the workforce i am joining. can you say that about your major!?

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high school sweethearts.

lovebirds. did you know that a lovebird is a real thing? they are social and affectionate parrots who got their name because of the bond they share with other birds. this little nickname has caught on when referring to people as well... (mostly those PDA couples that make you want to puke). after my trip back home for 10 days, i realized that there are many couples that i went to high school with, who are still going strong. or good friends from high school who are now dating. i don't know if it is a small town thing, but it just makes you wonder. do you think you will marry a man from your hometown?

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I have hit the point in my life where I have casually been going on "first dates."  I honestly never thought I would see the day, especially after my four year college experience in a small town in Indiana.  Guys didn't really take the girls out to dinner or drinks... because if they did, the whole school would be talking about it.  This definitely had to do with the fact that there were about 4 restaurants in Greencastle, Indiana so you were bound to be seen anywhere you went. You were deemed super lucky if a guy took you to a town about 30 minutes away... which had more like 10 choices. Gosh, just too many to even choose from!  Oh, or the guy would invite a girl over to his fraternity to "pregame" which seemed to be the comparison to a first date at DePauw University.